534. SAND Panel on Sexual Misconduct, Money, Power, Trauma & Ethics in Spiritual Communities | Also, Meeting of Founders and Members of the Association for Spiritual Integrity

Panel DiscussionPanel Discussion at the Science and Nonduality Conference on Sexual Misconduct, Money, Power, Trauma & Ethics in Spiritual Communities

Introduction by Rick Archer

    • The spiritual awakening sweeping the world may be critical to addressing our critical problems.
    • Ethical breaches by spiritual teachers sabotage this awakening.
    • How the ASI was founded. Its role & perspective.

Panel Discussion including Jac O’Keeffe, Mariana Caplan, Craig Holliday, and Miranda Macpherson

    • Qualities and Characteristics of a healthy teacher, student, and spiritual community.
    • What to look for in a spiritual teacher
    • The student’s responsibility.
    • Healthy teacher/student relationships.
    • Support for teachers recognizing their blind spots.
    • Are higher consciousness and more ideal behavior correlated?
    • Continual growth and learning, even in the teachers’ seat.
    • Discriminating between Awakening, Integration process and actualization.
    • Abiding exclusively in nondual awareness vs. developing a multi-layered perspective.
    • What contributes to unhealthy behavior or cult-like tendencies.

Questions and answers

    • Guru addiction
    • Money issues in spiritual communities
    • The responsibility teachers and students share
    • The importance of therapy.
    • Teachers referring students to other teachers.
    • How long to stay with a teacher
    • Teachers inviting students to give them feedback

Discussion of this interview in the BatGap Community Facebook Group.

Recorded October 25, 2019

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ASI-LogoMeeting of Founders and Members of the Association for Spiritual Integrity

Forty-five spiritual teachers, members of “The Association for Spiritual Integrity”, met for four hours prior to the start of the 2019 Science and Nonduality Conference. For the first couple of hours, we engaged in a deep, honest discussion about the challenges teachers face, seeking to learn how we might better support one another. We then broke into six groups, each focusing on a particular topic. Then we reassembled and recorded the remainder of the meeting.

This video includes:

Introduction by Rick

Summary of discussions in each of the six breakout groups.

  • (1) Bringing forth women and feminine empowerment.
    • Distinguishing between women and yin-style teachings in a way to not exclude men from the conversation.
    • Action items:
      • to have each day of SAND have a 3-hour session led by women.
      • to have more yin-style teachings on the SAND website
    • (2) Ongoing growth for teachers and continuing education, trauma, attachment, and shadow work.
      • Teacher survey: what is working for you?
      • Online teacher assessment through which teachers can assess themselves.
      • Regular peer-group meetings, including teachers with younger teachers
      • Workshop around developmental trauma that shows up in the teacher role.
    • (3) Creating community and peer support
      • Among spiritual teachers
      • How to include more people of color and young people in the spiritual community, which tends to be white and middle class.
      • Monthly online and annual in-person peer group meetings for spiritual teachers
      • A system whereby teachers can refer students to other teachers, if appropriate.
    • (4) Healthy power dynamics and dual relationships
      • People will naturally come and go from spiritual training groups.
      • There should be a balance between teacher and student accountability.
    • (5) The Ethics of the Spiritual Community
      • Have something like the Better Business Bureau which would keep the data on teacher abuse.
    • (6) The importance of awareness of teacher misbehavior and discerning between real misbehavior and false accusations.

A personal or professional commitment expressed by each teacher in the meeting.

Recorded October 24, 2019

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503. Kylea Taylor

Kylea TaylorKylea Taylor, M.S., LMFT, found two gaps in ethics education in the early 1990s while simultaneously studying to be a Marriage and Family Therapist and working as a senior trainer at the Grof Transpersonal Training where she assisted Stanislav Grof in training practitioners of Holotropic Breathwork®. Kylea observed that working with clients in non-ordinary states of consciousness requires different ethical awarenesses. She drew upon the tenets of several of the great religions to create InnerEthics™, a model for ethical self-reflection. The model clarifies the unique ethical territory of understanding and working skillfully with people who are experiencing profound and extra-ordinary states of consciousness and also provides a scaffolding for recognizing our semi-conscious, inner motivations as practitioners, teachers, and caregivers in order to avoid client and student harm and increase client and student benefit. Her book, The Ethics of Caring: Finding Right Relationship With Clients for Profound, Transformative Work in Our Professional Healing Relationships, illuminates transference, countertransference, power dynamics, dual relationship, and other topics important to relational ethics. The book won the 2017 Nautilus Book Award in the category, “Relationships & Communication.”

Kylea teaches, writes, and consults about ethics. She is also currently President and co-founder of SoulCollage Inc., which since 2003 has been training facilitators worldwide to share an expressive arts method that promotes deep self-discovery, individually and in community. Kylea’s focus as a therapist has been on assisting clients in integrating the meaning and extra-ordinary gifts of spiritual emergence, awakening or transpersonal experiences, and what she calls “personal paradigm shift” phenomena.

Website

Discussion of this interview in the BatGap Community Facebook Group.

Interview recorded May 18, 2019.

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482. Panel Discussions on Ethics and Spiritual Teaching

Ethics and Spiritual Teaching Panel at the Science and Nonduality Conference

  • Questioning whether higher consciousness and ethical behavior are tightly correlated.
  • The founding of
    the Association for Spiritual Integrity (formerly the Association of Professional Spiritual Teachers).
  • The attempt to formulate a code of ethics that might apply universally in the contemporary spiritual community and enliven an understanding of what may or may not be appropriate, giving students greater confidence in their own discernment and discrimination.
  • Ancient traditions held the teacher beyond reproach and students surrendered their own will. This may have worked in monastic settings but generally does not work today.
  • Preventative support so we’re not busy doing cleanup.
  • Power hierarchies should not be an essential part of spiritual development and can lead to abuses.
  • Spiritual awakening does not necessarily qualify a person to offer advice on relationships, finances, etc.
  • Ethical training of some sort is integral to most honored traditions.
  • The issue of sexism and patriarchy in spiritual organizations.
  • Entering the teaching profession prematurely.
  • All too often, when teachers are challenged on their behavior, they ignore the challenger or become defensive.
  • How do we offer the possibility for redemption and atonement?
  • Moving away from a culture of competition to one of cooperation.
  • The importance of humility.
  • The importance of teachers not identifying with their role and thinking that students’ devotion is about them.
  • South Africa’s “Truth and Reconciliation” as a model.

Discussion of this panel in the BatGap Community Facebook Group.

Recorded October 27, 2018

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A Discussion on Teacher-Student Romantic Relationships

  • The Association for Spiritual Integrity does not have a moralistic, judgmental orientation. It’s a community endeavor. We don’t agree among ourselves on certain points. We’re trying to balance our subjective perspectives with standards that fit our contemporary culture.
  • A key point of disagreement is the issue of teacher-student romantic/sexual relationships. None of us are rigid or adamant in our opinions.We’re trying to work it out.
  • There are exceptions to every generality. In graduate school, psychotherapists are taught that it will never be appropriate for therapists and their clients to become partners.
  • Relationships tend to be the most challenging aspect of people’s lives. These challenges shouldn’t bleed into a teacher’s teaching activities.
  • When a teacher/student or therapist/client relationship transitions into romantic involvement, the potential for growth is undermined.
  • Sometimes “divine compulsion” arises in your spiritual path, shattering your conception of appropriate behavior.
  • The problem with teachers who haven’t transcended desire and explored their own shadow.
  • There can be a huge disparity between the apparent enlightenment of a teacher and their behavior.
  • Isolation and being closed to constructive criticism can be very dangerous for a teacher.
  • If a teacher doesn’t have friends other than his students, he might want to ask why. If he doesn’t have regular relationships and is always on a pedestal, he won’t get real-world feedback.
  • The culture is changing anyway. We’re just trying to give voice to values that are becoming lively in collective consciousness.
  • There can be a lot of practice involved in having your actions be a reflection of your deepest understanding.

Discussion of this panel in the BatGap Community Facebook Group.

Recorded October 26, 2018

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Recorded October 26, 2018

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